When was the last time someone told you, "You can do this!" I speculate that it has been a while. It seems to be out of style to give people around us encouragement to do better, reach their goals or know that they are on the right track. In the work place, many managers just assume that you know if you are doing something well. It's easier to look on their dashboards and see where you are short in some measurable metric and have 'coach' you in to doing better. I don't have an easy answer on how to get the appreciation and encouragement which we call would like. My only suggestion is when was the last time your told someone you, "You can do this!" When it comes to receiving this, be the support which you would like from others.
